As promised, over the next 12 weeks I will be documenting the journey of five women leaders who are committed to generating what they want, instead of settling for what they have. They are all transforming their current situations. And I’m here to report that we have just completed our first week of their journey. Here are the results and highlights:
In the WINS category;
All five leaders were in action, meeting or exceeding their commitment goals for the week!
And, the most exciting part came from what they discovered for themselves, by using The Debrief Tool, (a contemplative, non-judgmental way of assessing our actions).
- For example; Jean, who last week fretted over a disastrous attempt to franchise her business, let go of a year’s worth of blame and regret, got clarity, and created a new business opportunity.
- “Way to go, Jean!” one of her fellow participants was quick to say, “I want you to understand that you just accomplished, in only 10 daysm what others would have taken months to do!”
In the LEARNINGS category:
This week’s discussion was about Brules, (aka Bulls**t Rules), Taken from the book: Code of the Extraordinary Mind by Vishen Lakhiani
A Brule is a bulls**t rule that we adopt to simplify our understanding of the world.
- We use them to categorize things, processes even people.
- Brules are handed down to us often by our family, culture and educational system.
- Many of them are rules about how to live, and are tied to good and bad, right and wrong and come from others.
Brules are mental constructs and many are merely opinions that we believe because they were drilled into our minds as children and accepted by the culture we grew up in.
Brules examples:
- We must work hard to be successful
- We have to have a college degree to guarantee our success
There are 5 ways Vishen believes we take on Brules:
- Childhood indoctrination
- Authority figures
- The need to belong
- Social proof, aka “everyone else is doing it”
- Our own internal insecurities
This week we are on the lookout for what brules could pop up and try to derail us. Which brules might get in your way?
